When Your Husband’s a Designer, You Marry His PC Too — Here’s My Story
For many, especially remote designers, the workspace can feel like an echo chamber; you live inside your head most days, fine-tuning edits and guided by playlists that drown out the silence.
But what happens when a designer decides to share that rhythm with someone else?
How does a life built on deadlines, revisions, and creative anxiety blend with companionship and love?
We caught up with Bunmi, a newly married woman whose husband is a full-time designer. In this conversation, she gives us a front-row seat into what it’s really like being married to a designer — the quirks, the late-night work sessions, and the language of creativity that fills their home.
She also shares some candid truths (and a few secrets) that only those living with a designer would truly understand.
Here are 7 questions with Bunmi, as she opens up about life, love, and the art of living with a creative mind.
1. How did you meet your significant other? Spill the beans.
I met him at church, where he played the keyboard. I was new to the place, and everyone was friendly. He slid into my DM after getting my contact from the church group. The rest, as they say, is history!
2. What was your first impression when you heard he was a designer? Before this, how did you view design?
I assumed it was merely a hobby or a means to get small cash. I thought it was a phase that would end once he completed his tertiary education and got a job
3. What did family members think of his profession? Did mummy and daddy raise objections?
My mum was all concerned
I hope he’s not doing Yahoo Yahoo? Does he have a job? Where’s he working? Is it a real job?
4. Since meeting him, any peculiarities you can attribute to him being a designer?
He’s meticulous; he pays attention to details.
He’s precise and accurate, with a perfectionist streak; things have to align, be straight, or be well-rounded.
5. Do you think the design field is equal to every other field?
The design field is equal to other fields and other professions, but it requires a higher dose of creative thinking, skill, and innovation.
6. Your sister is getting married to a designer. What would you tell her to expect?
All-nighters are his norm, snacking away while he works.
He’s physically present but mentally elsewhere, fully immersed in his zone.
He’ll go everywhere with his system, almost like his shadow, and he’ll go to great lengths for power and a stable network connection
7. Do you sometimes feel tempted to wish he weren’t a designer?
Honestly, no, but I wish there were a stipulated work hour, that would be great! He’s always on the clock.
8How do you help him manage the need to be present and keep work off his mind?
He’s only off his system when he’s on a walk! I’d get him out. Fresh air works wonders 😊
I also engage him in silly convos and tell him he isn’t listening whenever he’s zoning out. At least that way, I’d get his attention.
There’s Nothing New Under The Sun
They say there’s nothing new under the sun — and it’s true, designers aren’t the only ones dancing to the tune of pressure and perfection. But unlike most professions, creativity follows them everywhere. According to a 2024 study by Adobe, over 60% of creative professionals admit they struggle to fully disconnect from work even outside office hours — a sign of just how deeply creativity intertwines with everyday life.
Thankfully, partners like Bunmi learn to understand and adapt.
They create gentle reminders to pause, share laughter, and pull their loved ones out of the mental maze because, in the end, being married to a designer means embracing the sides that come together to make them up.
If you’re lucky, like Bunmi, you just might discover that love, too, can be a perfectly designed work in progress!
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